The first thing to remember is this: As long as you make an identity for yourself out of the pain, you cannot become free of it.

As long as part of your sense of self is invested in your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage every attempt that you make to heal that pain.

Why? Quite simply because you want to keep yourself intact, and the pain has become an essential part of you.

This is an unconscious process, and the only way to overcome it is to make it conscious.

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To suddenly see that you are or have been attached to your pain can be quite a shocking realisation.


The moment you realise this, you have broken the attachment.

The “pain-body” is an energy field, almost like an entity, that has become temporarily lodged in your inner space. It is life energy that has become trapped, energy that is no longer flowing. Of course, the “pain-body” is there because of certain things that happened in the past. It IS the living past in you, and if you identify with it, you identify with the past.

A victim identity is the belief that the past is more powerful than the present, which is the opposite of the truth. It is the belief that other people and what they did to you are responsible for who you are now, for your emotional pain or your inability to be your true self.

The truth is that the only power there is is contained within this moment:

It is the power of your presence. Once you know that, you also realise that YOU are responsible for your inner space now - nobody else is - and that the past cannot prevail against the power of NOW.


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