We live in a time where there is such a strong focus on personal image. From body image, to material possessions to lifestyle,. It can be easy to fall into the comparison trap and in turn feel like you’re not enough.
It is through one feeling that they are not enough that leads to things such as cosmetic enhancements or surgery, the need to post inappropriate photos online and the act of purchasing items that one cannot realistically afford, all to ‘keep up’ with everyone else.
These are 3 of the most common things you see online today on many social media profiles and it saddens me.
It saddens me because many men and women don’t see that they are more than beautiful enough the way they are and/or are too busy trying to get the ‘right shot’ for their social media account that they are not actually being present in the moment and enjoying the authentic beauty in their lives.
Although things such as a cosmetic enhancement or a new pair of shoes makes us feel happy and good about ourselves at the time, they are only a temporary and expensive solutions to this epidemic.
With social media platforms such as Facebook and Instagram, along with photoshop and filters, it can be really easy to become insecure and unfulfilled with our own image and lives.
But it wasn’t always this way…..
Do you remember back when you were a child going to kindergarten? You didn’t look at the other kids comparing yourself to them. You didn’t wonder if they judged your hair colour or the clothes you wore. You were your carefree, authentic self too busy off climbing trees to sweat the small stuff.
Now I want you to imagine if that younger you were to feel insecure. If that younger you came up to you and told you they didn’t like the way their body looked.
Would you tell them to change it???
No, you would tell them that we all come in different shapes and sizes and that is what makes us all unique. You would tell them that you love them and they are beautiful the way they are.
So why are we not doing that for ourselves today?!?
The ego is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is false. It is a combination of all the beliefs we have created during our life about our personality, talents and abilities based on our experiences.
For example, if one day at kinder garden another child came up to you and said ‘my lunch box is better than yours because it has glitter on it’ you would then start to consider that lunch boxes are something to be compared and now you need a better lunch box because yours is not good enough.
As we go through these life experiences, we start to create beliefs about ourselves and the rest of the world which become part of our ego.
The reason I am telling you all of this is because we all want to feel beautiful and satisfied with our lives but rather than going out and seeking this externally, it’s about allowing our true, natural beauty from within shine through and that starts with taking care of what’s going on on the inside!
So many of our clients here at The Centre For Healing complete our 8 or 12 week course with the intention of improving their mental and emotional health but also end up looking and feeling better physically too.
So, here are 3 easy and natural ways to look and feel more beautiful;
Drink more water - Drinking sufficient water boosts your metabolism and helps the body properly break down food. Water is a detoxifier that helps to flush out toxins and get rid of waste primarily through sweat and urine reducing the risk of bloating, acne and other skin problems.
Tip: Purchase a water bottle that displays the amounts you are consuming so you can keep track of your daily intake and hold yourself accountable.
Decrease stress - Our stress levels also play a part in the condition of our skin and hair. This is because our physical body is linked with our mental and emotional body too. So when something or someone is ‘getting under your skin’ internally, it is going to show externally. Or if someone or something is making you want to ‘pull your hair out’ internally, this too will show externally.
Tip: Take time out for yourself! Even if it’s just 1-2 hours per week, it’s important to care for your mind, body and soul. You may like to try a yoga class, a meditation class or visit a professional to discuss your stresses such as a therapist or life coach.
Get adequate sleep - Sleep plays such a large role in the way we feel about ourselves. When we don’t get enough sleep it can result in puffy eyes and dark circles which in turn can make some of us feel insecure. On top of that, being sleep deprived affects your ability to perceive things as easily or as clearly which can have other emotional effects.
Tip: Try setting yourself a bed routine that works for you. Some suggestions you could incorporate are;
No electronics for the last hour before bed
Having a warm bath with lavender essential oil or magnesium which both assist in naturally calming muscular and nervous systems
Listen to some relaxing music or a meditation track that’s specifically tailored to falling asleep
Having a cup of relaxation tea
Go to bed at around the same time each night
Incorporating a combination of the 3 things mentioned above will not only assist in clearer, brighter skin and an overall healthier appearance but will have you feeling beautiful on the inside too!
Written by: Chanel de King, Healer and Therapist at The Centre for Healing.
Specialising in Addiction Rehabilitation and Mental Health Programs in Melbourne.